Most likely it’s because we are hardest on ourselves. People cry most in my workshops when we do the meditation on forgiving yourself. That weight would be diminished if we chose to forgive instead of harboring guilt or anger. The human experience is so similar, and yes, I know the details are vastly different, and that the devil lies in the details, but we still share the same weight on our shoulders. This leads me to believe that we are all indeed connected, a union-which is what the word Yoga means. Almost everyone in the room will have at least shed a tear. I lead a meditation in my workshops on forgiveness, and every time, without fail, people start crying. What can you love about yourself today that you may have struggled with before?Ĭan you find a way to cultivate the opposite? According to Pantajali’s Yoga Sutra 2.33, “When the mind is disturbed by improper thoughts constant pondering over the opposites is the remedy.” Forgive yourself. Instead of thinking “I am an incomplete human being because I can’t hear perfectly,” I think “I am an incredible human being with a profound sense of touch and understanding and a huge capacity for love. I have turned something I don’t necessarily “love” having into another piece in the puzzle of me, and part of why I love that puzzle. I have also learned that because of my hearing loss, my other senses are highly attuned. However, it’s here to stay, and I have learned that I can make light of it, or I can sit home and feel sorry for myself because I am missing out on what feels like everything. I have ringing in my ears twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. I have profound hearing loss in fact, I am almost deaf and wear hearing aids. Identify something about you that you may not adore and find a way to at least laugh at it or like it, even a little bit.

Here’s my challenge for you today: Take a picture of your face and remember that in ten years time you will be amazed at how gorgeous you were. It is very challenging to hire someone or love someone who fights you by holding up a mirror of hatred toward themselves. I’m sure I was not much fun to be around, and I also know that I didn’t book any of the acting jobs I was trying to land. I spent many years being anorexic and feeling like I was a monster. I can think of so many reasons why you should love yourself, but here’s just one: It is incredibly dull and uninspiring to be around people who do not love themselves.

You mean I am a source of many wonderful things?ĭespite all the things that you think may be terribly wrong with you, love yourself. “Love yourself-accept yourself-forgive yourself-and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” ~Leo F.

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